Last week, we met my Fab Three who were all so very gracious to answer questions about appearance, both ours and theirs. If you missed it, click here to get enlightened.
To remind you, Dave is our single guy (totally on the market, and after reading his answers, if you’re single and not trying to pick up on this guy, you’re crazy) . Phil loves his girlfriend and is committed to just her (lucky girl), and Don is a happily married father of three (who makes me laugh…a lot).
Today we’re taking our Q & A to the bedroom and digging into their sexy thoughts, so, without further ado, put on your naughty clothes, pull out the cuffs and whips (or rose petals if that’s more your style), and let’s talk about S-E-X, baby.
Bryan Jones from Bryan Jones’ Diary, the ramblings of a menopausal man asked:
“From your perspective, what (if any) are the differences between making love and having sex?”
Dave: Yes there is a huge difference. Having sex is when you just let loose and don’t give a shit about anything. Possibly you don’t even know them at all or that well. Your rhythm is off, but you don’t give a shit because you will probably never see her again. Sex is the physical act but with limited or no emotional connection at all. I have never seen a hot blonde at the mall and said “God I would love to make love to her.” I just want to use her. Sex is fucking. Making love is a whole other act. When you really truly love someone, you care about how she feels. You care about what you do to her or how you do it to her. You want her to feel better than you. You put her first. Making love is not just physical but it is such an emotional experience, and I hope everyone in life gets that feeling at least once. Then you will always chase that. Making love, you and your partner are so connected and so in tune with each other that everything is just right. You move together, feel together, breath together. You are 100% comfortable with the act and hide nothing from each other. Making love can be described as both of your bodies being as one, and I believe that. You hold them a certain way. You kiss them a certain way. Even though you are intimate with that person, it still isn’t enough. It’s because you love her more than anything in this world.
Phil: Making love is when you and your partner have an emotional bond during lovemaking. It’s slow, sensual, caring, rhythmic, and an expression of the feelings you have for one another. The type of sex with deliberate foreplay, then holding each other afterwards.
Having sex is when you fuck the shit out of each other and use each other’s bodies for the pure pleasure of it. This is the dirty, nasty, sweaty, biting, name calling kind of sex. The type when you bend her over the couch or kitchen counter top, rip down her pants, and just take her. Slapping the ass. It can be a quickie or the type that soaks the sheets. The kind where you tie your guy to the bedpost, smack him around a bit, and then ride him like a human fuck toy until you are satisfied.
Don: Making love is what I do with a pie my grandma makes for Thanksgiving, while having sex is something that my wife and I do naked from time to time when the kids aren’t around.
Laura (who I have a super huge girl crush on and who also comes up with some fantastic questions) from History of a Woman asked:
“Do you prefer to be the more dominant one during sex, or do you prefer if your lady takes the lead? Why?
Dave: Well hmmm. It kind of all depends. So the single bachelor side of me likes to be dominant but mostly because I don’t love this person or hardly know her. Haha. I like to feel like I conquered something, and it’s just a different feeling when you are in a relationship with someone. When I am in a relationship, I like to feel dominated but mostly because nothing excited me more than to know my girl is excited. I like her to take charge that way I know for sure she is getting what she wants. As she should. For example, I meet a girl, take her home. I have my way with her and do whatever I want. When you are dating or in a relationship, the first few times you have sex, you are always asking, “what do you like?” or “what do you want me to do?” Because you truly want the best experience for her, so you put yourself second. Although, we always cum first. Haha.
Phil: It depends on the mood. I don’t mind at all when she takes the lead and dominates. It’s a turn on for lots of men to not always have to make the first move. We like to feel like sex objects, too, once in a while. It’s hot when a gal rides you cowgirl style and tells you what she wants in bed. Then again, there are the times when we like to be the one in control, tease, and seduce with our hands, mouth, tongue, until she is squirming out of breathless control and begs for it.
Don: I like my wife to be assertive in this department so that she’s getting what she wants from me, but overall, I guess I like to be the dominant one. Honestly, the wife and I are both pretty easy going overall, so if one of us didn’t take charge in the sex department, we’d probably both end up falling asleep staring at the ceiling waiting for the other to do something.
What are really thinking during sex? REALLY thinking?
Dave: So for starters, sex isn’t always just sex. I never think about just one thing. There is “hi we just met” sex, “make-up” sex, “angry” sex, “I missed you” sex, etc. It’s always a different scenario and different feeling, so this question is hard to answer. Let’s just say generally speaking, what I think about is some sort of affirmation. I need to know that what I am doing is working. Don’t lie to me, help me help you. Nothing is more exciting to know a woman is excited and that what I’m doing is working. How many times have you had sex and you say, “I’m about to cum” just as your man says, “uuummmm…I don’t think so because I just did.” Haha. You need to start saying it sooner. Sometimes you get in, and it just feels too good. You start thinking about someone’s grandma or hockey. Most of the time, it doesn’t work though, and you look like a sixteen year old boy. I’ve also thought about real shit like being so in love with that person that I just want to be that close to her forever, and even though we are naked and sweaty and touching, it’s not close enough still. That’s the amazing sex I miss. Then again,meeting a stranger and getting to yank on that bitch’s hair is cool, too.
Phil: I’m not thinking about baseball! I love women. I love sex. I think about what I can do more to her, and what the next position might be. I love to eat a girl out. I can go down on a chick forever until she is screaming. Truth! Don: I’m mostly thinking about how soon I need to finish my business to assure that I get six hours of sleep.
To my wonderful guys who are so open and apparently very good in bed, thank you so much for your honesty and candor and for taking the time to answer these questions. I have a feeling that more than one of us will take this knowledge to the bedroom soon, for some of us…tonight. My husband will thank you later.
So….What do you think? Did they answer the questions the way you expected? If you’re a man, would you have answered differently? I would love to hear what your thoughts are on this subject. This is just the beginning…You all provided me with some excellent questions, and my guys are doing a great job answering, so if they’re game, we’ll keep this going. There are whispers of some other blogger friends who might also be interested. If you would like to join the panel or would like to nominate someone to sit on the hot seat, please, pretty please with a cherry on top, let me know.