Stars in the Southern Sky

 

 

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“Amanda, light of my life …” I can hear his deep bass voice sing.  I close my eyes and drift back to childhood when he would pick up his guitar and start singing this song to me. I know the rest of the words aren’t very appropriate for a brother to sing to his sister, but it doesn’t matter where I am, I hear those five words, “Amanda, light of my life,” and I feel special. Loved.

He taught me to love music, to listen to the different aspects. The bass, the lead guitar, the piano, the melody. My first experiences of watching live music were of street fairs on warm summer nights in small town West Texas where he and his band would play and I would sit with my parents drinking sweet tea out of a mason jar listening to the smooth harmony of his quartet. “There are stars in the Southern sky…,” the first line of Seven Bridges Road by the Eagles, always gives me chills. I can hear his voice in the deep bass chords.

He was always big and powerful, bold and mighty. At 6 feet tall, he towered over the rest of my brothers and my parents. Being fourteen years older than I, he was always and still is big to me. My big brother.

He called me “baby girl” and “precious little gem.” And even though he was partially poking  fun at how spoiled I was, I know there was a little endearment in those words.

He took me to Six Flags once when I was thirteen. Just the two of us, and we rode every roller coaster and screamed and cheered and laughed. And lived.

We saw The Allman Brothers Band and Lynyrd Skynyrd one night when I was in my twenties. We laughed and smiled and danced and puffed and passed. He never knew I spoke (poquito) Spanish until I started a conversation with two people visiting from Spain. He still brags to people about that.

When I visited him in California for my thirtieth birthday, we stumbled upon an 80’s cover band and spent the evening dancing and singing along to every song at the tops of our lungs to bad hair band music. “You know all the words,” he shouted at me over the crowd. That night, we witnessed the most incredible head-butt either of us have or will ever see when we met Ned the Bastard, Andy the Bitch, and Stevegnan. They will forever hold a special place in our hearts and our late night conversations.

I didn’t even realize it, but he became one of my best friends. Who would have thought that when we were born fourteen years apart?

This past Saturday night, I sat on the living room floor of his house. He picked up his guitar, and he started playing. “Amanda,” he sang. I smiled and joined in with the harmony, “light of my life.” When the song was over, we began brainstorming songs, something so natural for my family, and together, we sort of figured them out. It goes something like this:

“What’s that song that…?”

“Oh, is this it?”

“Yeah, that’s the one. That.”

He played and sang lead. I harmonized.  My dad got out his harmonica and joined in. I don’t sing in front of people, but I never feel scared to sing in front of my family, and while my mom sat on the couch and listened, my brother, my dad, and I made music. Probably off key, but in that moment I was a little girl again sitting in my childhood home watching him at the piano playing Chicago’s “Hard for Me To Say I’m Sorry,” as I quietly sang with him in the background. He probably didn’t even know I was there. But in that moment, on Saturday night, in his living room with my sweet family, life was perfect.

Then Tuesday I got a text from my dad. A group text to god knows who saying something about his son having cancer and prayers and who really even cares what it said?

It said my brother’s name. And it said cancer.

I called my brother immediately before I finished reading the text. He confirmed that it’s true.

Aside from the turbulent pounding in my chest, the world stopped.

Cancer.

We’ve always joked about running away together. When life is ever challenging, we send each other a text that usually says, “Phuket?” And then the other says, “Yep, Phuket.”

I want to run away. I want to hide from the possibilities, the questions, and the fear. And I want to scream at the top of my lungs, “F*ck you, cancer.”

But more than anything, I want to go back to Saturday night when everything was perfect.

 

 

“Sometimes there’s a part of me

Has to turn from here and go.

Running like a child from these warm stars.

Down the Seven Bridges Road

There are stars in the Southern Sky

And if ever you decide you should go

There is a taste of thyme – sweetened honey

Down the Seven Bridges Road” Seven Bridges Road, The Eagles

 

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19 thoughts on “Stars in the Southern Sky

  1. My sweet, sweet Squishy, I’m so sad to read this and know how it all happened…that you found out accidentally, and that you still don’t know all the knowings. But I love your connection with your brother, your friendship with him and the way he has always been such a huge, glorious part of your world. Long may that continue. Sending all prayers and best wishes and healing thoughts his way.

    Meantime…Phuket mightn’t be a bad idea 😉

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  2. This is the first time I’ve read your blog – Thanks for the link, Lizzi. I hope your brother’s cancer turns out to be very treatable and he is cured. He sounds like a very, very special guy, and he has a family full of love and music. That has to help. Sending you strength and hope.

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  3. This sucks for everyone involved! I’m sure you know that cancer doesn’t necessarily a death sentence — but that doesn’t make this any less scary and worrisome for you and your family. I’ll be thinking good thoughts your way!

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  4. This totally sucks, BIG TIME, a BIG ONE! I am sorry Mandi! I hate cancer, I hate it with you. Your relationship with your brother is amazing. You are so lucky girl, tremendously! LOVE YOU!

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  5. Oh, Mandi. I am so very very sorry about this. How incredibly scary for all of you! My heart feels so heavy for you right now. 😦 I know your family is dealing with a diagnosis that your father got as well. Fuck it all. Praying and sending healing and loving thoughts your way. Que Dios Los Bendiga! xo

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  6. This is beautiful. You can see all the love
    In the pictures and hear it in the words. You have built something strong to stand on, whatever happens next. ❤ I'm here if you need me.

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  7. A heavy sign escaped me as I began to write this comment, Mandi. There are no words to make things better. If I had them, I would give them to you. Suffice it to say, I know exactly how you feel havinbg been there myself many years ago with my best friend, who was then 30. All I can say is, regardless of the outcome, that Saturday night will always be there, along with the memories and virtues that make your brother so very special. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, Mandi.

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